Evidence-Based Strategies for Real Life Parenting
FREE GUIDE FOR PARENTS OF KIDS AGES 4-12
When Your Child Just Won't Listen
& Do What You're Asking
THE TRIPLE P TRANSITION GUIDE
A 3-Step Method to Get Through Hard Moments Without Yelling, Bribing, or Giving In
Rooted in evidence-based behavior science Ā· Practical enough to use today Ā· Designed for parents in the thick of it
You're not doing it wrong. You're just missing the starting piece.
You ask them to stop the game. Put the shoes on. Turn off the show. Go take a bath. Get in the car.
It shouldn't be a big deal, but somehow it always turns into one.
The yelling. The crying. The dropping to the floor. The same fight you had yesterday, the day before that, and the day before that. You start dreading asking them to do something before you even open your mouth because you already know how it's going to go.
And afterward, when your child has moved on like nothing even happened, you're the one left replaying it. Wondering why this feels so hard. Wondering if you're doing something wrong.
You're not. Most transition meltdowns don't start with the words you say in that moment. They start before that, in a pattern that's easy to miss and even easier to fix once you see it.
This guide walks you through the pattern and the three-step method that changes it.
What you'll get
An actionable, evidence-based plan you can use today.
Not more advice to forget.
The guide gives you a clear, three step method you can use in real time, before and during the moment transitions fall apart.
what's inside
Practical, behavior-based strategies you can start using today!
Step 1: Presence
Connection Before Direction
A connected child cooperates.
A controlled child resists.
This step shows you how to set that up before you ever make the ask.
Step 2: Preview
Prepare for What's Coming
Remove the surprise,
remove the power struggle.
A few words at the right moment change everything that follows.
Step 3: Prepare
Set Up for Success & Follow Through
Clarity and consistency help your child feel safe and behave more predictably, even when the transition is hard.
Written by Sharon Elliott, MS, BCBA, LBA
A mom of 3 with 16+ years experience helping families move through hard moments without the fight.
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STILL NOT SURE?
Frequently Asked Questions
Question 1: Does this work for my child's age?
This guide is built for kids roughly 4 to 12 years old. The method flexes with age, so you'll just adjust the words you use.
Question 2: What if I've already tried everything?
This isn't another system telling you to discipline better. It's a different way to set up the moment before it starts, which is usually the missing piece.
Question 3: Will this get rid of meltdowns completely?
No guide can promise that, kids are kids. What this gives you is a way to make them fewer, to make them last shorter, and for you to feel steadier as a parent if a meltdown does happen.
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